Sunday, January 25, 2015

Making Your Home Sing Monday Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 97 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

I do not have a post for today so that will save you some reading!  ;)  So let's get right to the linky party and I hope all y'all have a great week!  Thanks so much for linking up today.

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today!


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Sunday, January 18, 2015

Your Husband Can't Be Good At Everything & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 125 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.

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I had just finished a long phone conversation with my mom, in which we talked about several things.  But one of the things we talked about was a specific difficult situation I was dealing.

After I hung up with my mom I turned to my husband and teasingly said "It's going to be so hard someday when my mom is gone.  I'm going to have to talk to only YOU about stuff like that and you're going to have to just sit and listen and let me talk (and not try to fix it).  And that will be hard as you're not so great at that."*

My husband looked at me with a smile and said "I can't be good at everything."

Wow.  Truer words were never spoken.

How often have we wished for our husbands to say the perfect word at the perfect time?  Expect that they will never make a mistake?  Hope that they will never fail us?

How many times do we wish or expect that our spouses will meet our every need?

There is only ONE who can meet our every need, and it's not our husband.

Does your husband have areas in your marriage and parenting where he excels and just blesses your socks off, and yet there are other areas where he needs growth or just isn't "perfect?"

Do you often find yourself focusing on his weaknesses instead of his strengths?  Are you focusing on the things he is not doing instead of focusing on the things he IS doing?

I remember once, when the kids were little, I walked by my husband's study and noticed how messy it was and it made me angry. As I went about my household duties I began to get angrier and angrier and soon I had built myself up into quite a temper.

I mean, after all, he KNEW how important it was to me to have a clean house.  I wanted order in EVERY room in my home, so the least he could do was keep his study clean, right?  If it was that important to me and if he loved me he'd keep it clean, right?  At least, that's what I told myself.

But there's the problem:

 "IF he loved me."  

I was quantifying love, thereby suggesting that he didn't love me if he didn't keep his study clean.

Really?

And, for the record, why do I get to decide how clean our home must be?  He has to live in it too.

In my anger at the mess I had ceased to appreciate all the good qualities of my husband as I focused and directed my anger at that one messy room.

All the times he gassed up my car for me, changed diapers, was patient and loving and kind toward me, the times he played with the kids so that I could fix dinner in peace, chauffeured the kids around, worked hard at work and came home to his family, was quick to repair things that were broken, ran to the store the minute I asked without complaining, washed and waxed my car......

........all that was forgotten because his office was messy.........

Sometimes we expect our husbands to be good at everything.  We might expect more from them than we expect from ourselves as we hold them to a higher standard.

We act like we expect him to be able to read our minds, and are disappointed when he can't.  We get frustrated when he can't load the dishwasher as well as we can.

Your husband will not be good at everything.  Neither will you.  Neither will I.

Your husband won't be able to meet your every need because that's not what God has designed him to do. He is designed to take his place in your life, not God's place.


Don't expect your husband to fulfill God's role in your life.

Next time you start reflecting on your husband's negative qualities, take a long moment to reflect on, and be thankful for, his positive qualities.  Remember, he can't be good at everything.  Change your focus, make your marriage AND your home sing this week!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today!

*Note: Just wanted to add that I do talk with my hubby about difficult things. I was referring to those times when you just want to talk and talk and TALK,  ad nauseam, about whatever is going on.   Moms are good for those times!  ;)


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The Life Of Faith

Living Proverbs 31

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Sunday, January 11, 2015

"Small Things Can Make A Huge Impact" & MYHSM Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 124 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.


Image courtesy of Chaiwat at FreeDigitalPhotos.net


AThanksgiving, I wanted to make more room for people, so we removed a couple of things from our living room and pushed the rest of our furniture back against the walls.  Then we brought in a couple of tables and we all ate in the living room.

When I came up with the idea my husband and son were THRILLED.

Or not.

I didn't mind because I wasn't the one moving stuff, lol!

One thing I noticed was that the living room looked really big when we (as in they) moved a few things.  Isn't it amazing how BIG a room looks when it's empty or partially empty?

I have a large living room anyway, but it REALLY looked big after we removed some stuff.  And actually, all we did was remove two things.

TWO THINGS!

It kind of makes you think, you know?

Now, granted, the two things we removed were the couch and the coffee table.  If I had removed a plant and a book, it would not have made such a big deal obviously.  But the principle remains the same.


Even SMALL things can make a huge impact in your life and in your home. 



Look around you:  


  • Where is your purse?
  • Where is your coat?
  • Do you have a dead plant staring you right in the face?  
  • Do you have newspapers lying around?   
  • How many shoes are lying by your front door or in a pile in the corner of your bedroom?  
  • Do you have empty pop cans lying around?
  • Are there used napkins or tissues wadded up on the table or counter instead of in the garbage?
  • Are there dirty dishes within an arm's reach of you?  
  • Is there a bag of chips that has been left out for several days now?
  • How many books or magazines are lying around and how many of them are you currently reading?
  • Any baskets of laundry nearby?
  • Can you sit on your couch or is it piled high with laundry?
  • Are there piles of cat or dog hair in the corners?
  • How much STUFF do you have that doesn't have a home?  Is it currently stacked on the floor, on a counter or on the table?



How long has it been there?

As I write this I am sitting on my couch.  I look around me and I can see a laundry basket that has been on the chair for TWO whole days and I haven't folded it yet!!!!

I can see a magazine that I was reading earlier and left out.  There's a bottle of water on the coffee table and my shoes AND my slippers are on the floor next to me. 

There's also a box of tissues on the coffee table which does NOT belong there.  My purse doesn't belong there either, but there it is.

Now granted, that's not a lot and it would only take a few minutes to straighten up the living room and return everything to their places.

But if I let this go for today and let things pile up day after day in every room in my home this week, I would have hours and HOURS of clean up to do at the end of the week.

I have done that.  I have let things go in favor of working on a project, or an illness or injury and it is NOT fun to dig yourself out.  I try not to do it as a rule but I can be tempted on occasion to let certain things slide.  

So whatever chaos your home is in right now, you're not alone and there is hope!  You can begin to change it for the better.  

All you need to do is remember that the smallest change can sometimes have the biggest impact, so don't feel like you have to do everything at once. 

Make your bed,unload and load the dishwasher again, throw away the used dental floss, vacuum up the dog hair, put your makeup away in the drawer, fold the laundry, etc.  Don't get discouraged and keep moving toward progress.

Just do the "little" things today.  Keep doing the little things, every day, and you will establish some very good habits that will make a huge impact and make your home sing!

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today!  


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 PhotobucketStrangers and Pilgrims on Earth 
The Life Of Faith

Living Proverbs 31

marriage mondaysWhat Joy Is MineTeaching What Is Good Messy MarriageWise-Woman-Builds 125 Titus 2 Tuesday Button Photobucket

Sunday, January 4, 2015

Making Your Home Sing Monday Linky Party


Making your home sing Mondays


Welcome to the Making Your Home Sing Monday linky party!  Every day you are doing something to make your house into a home for yourself and your family (if you have one). 

My point with each Monday post is, what are YOU doing or going to do today to make your home sing?  It can be an attitude or an action. So have fun, do some blog hopping, and link up!  Thanks!


Topics can include marriage, parenting, encouraging women, organization, cleaning, saving money, our behavior and attitudes, homemaking, homeschooling, recipes.....the opportunities are endless.


Note: We had 77 linkups last week!  You guys are awesomely amazing and amazingly awesome!  Don't forget to visit one another and try to leave a comment on at least one blog to encourage someone today!  :)  

On the left sidebar (down towards the bottom) is the "Making Your Home Sing! Monday" button which I'd love for you to grab and paste into your post!  It is a "no-follow" button.


I am actually out of town AND out of the state, as you read this.   Fortunately I remembered to schedule this post before I left, lol!

The son of one of my dearest friends is getting married this weekend, and my husband has the pleasure of marrying him and his sweet bride.

Her son was also one of my son's best friends growing up, and both my children will be a part of the wedding.

So thank you all for linking up!  I think the holidays has made the linky party "shrink" a bit as people are out and about celebrating and visiting family and friends, so I appreciate each and every one of you joining us today!  :)

What are you doing or going to do today to make your home sing? Please go here for instructions and/or ideas and come back here to link up to join us today!  


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